Submission - conflict - To know to say " NO"
« For submission is not
a way out of suffering... »
Christian
Submission has different faces...
It can be submission to the external space : it lets someone else, an authority, a group, decide for ourself, it is to be a person of second hand...it is the submission to theories, rules, dreams of another one, or collectives...
It can be submission to the inner space : it is to be submitted to our emotions, our dreams, our fears...
Submission nourishes this space which closes, and this, often through ignorance, through the pleasure to do oneself harm, through indifference : not to feel concerned by the whole body of humanity of which we believe to be separated, through despair : to throw in the towel, through forgetting of why we have a body, through the desire of tranquillity, through the fear to be what we ARE : to escape from Reality...
No longer to submit, no longer to suffer, to be again a person of first hand i.e. who decides by herself, in harmony with the original intention, it is knowing to say «NO» to a space which closes, a space greedy of energy, which devitalized, and not to nourrish it any longer...
It is a personal decision not to follow our external or internal attractions anymore...It is courageous because the reflexes of the body do not follow immediately the decision...It needs its time to register the change...It is work to prepare the body to function differently... Worried by the insecurity of this novelty, the reptilian brain is not going to let it happen and can be clever to transform in new rule the respect of the space of Dignity...
No longer to submit, it is a frank and sincere « YES » to Dignity... to make room for it and to let it work... To follow Dignity can only be done in an acquiescence, a gentle chosen, conscious, willing obedience...
No longer to submit,
it is not to be afraid of the poison anymore
because we have found the antidote...
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Conflict
« To grow,
it is to accept the conflict »
Christian
« So, useless to be at war against your space. The war will come quick enough by itself ! Why ? You are not alone in this space. The others exist also. The modifications of look, behaviour, radiance that you bring will perhaps not be pleasing to them. They will react ! If you are serene and stable in your own comprehension, the conflict will not be destructive for you, even if it is uncomfortable. You accept this awkwardness, which you hope will not last, because you have no desire to go back to the old system ».
Walking 17
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« But to reach this situation of humor, this state of humor for yourself, you must firstly look at with much attention the action of the outside on you, it means the recognition that you wait for the others, and that will effectively pose a problem of conflict, because if you in your research, you will not be in conflict with the others, the others will be in conflict with you, because they will not recognize you anymore and they will say « you are not anymore part of us », « you are not anymore part of the family »;
Look at the things quietly, without judging, but know that self-liberation goes through the complete destruction of the phenomenon of the recognition installed by the man, in immediate consequence of the first energetic law.
Thus you cannot progress without the acceptance of conflict, it is important, excessively important, because in this conflict that the other will have towards you, whereas you, you are not in conflict with him, you will not have to use the reactional system of defense, of usual aggression… otherwise you will find yourself in all the old mechanism of creation of the emotional energetic object ».
Christian
« It is this noble activity which will lead gently in the Original Perfection by the constant practice of his Original Dignity.
And it is thus that in the external circle of knowledge one cannot evolve without accepting the conflict.
The others ones will be in conflict with you whereas you are not in conflict with them, but they will not know it. As soon as you exceed their limits of comprehension, as soon as you exceed the elasticity of their system, of their proud center, then you are an adversary, you are a disruptive, dangerous element. And they will seek to break, to expel this danger, it means you. And it is not easy to know to say no. Because the spirit, the flux of pleasure is always researching security. It is difficult to live in the insecurity ».
Christian
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« The atmosphere is impregnated with Stéphane, this little kid who could not say NO, but who had a lot of courage. But not to be able to say NO is the worst thing. Energy goes away. Remains only a so tiny respiration that it can die at any time... »
Tiger Man 34
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Knowing to say « NO »
« The challenge is knowing
to say «no» and «why» ! »
Christian
Knowing to say « no »... it seems quite simple... but when the situation is there, the body’s reflexes are also present... and what we know we should not do vanishes: we do it all the same... if there was a flash of lucidity, it is immediately filled and it is blindness... the attraction is irresistible towards the former which seems safe because we know it... that even seems obvious... we do not see the trap to close...
So, it is important to LOOK AT what we really want, and to MAKE UP ONE’S MIND... we know then why we say « no », we have the strength to say it and to do it...
When we always fall in the same holes... one day, we want to stop with this force to do oneself harm... and to make cease its power of attraction is courageous... Not to breathe with this old pal anymore is not going to please it and it will not let it be !!!!!...
To say « no » becomes a challenge because it is to run the risk unbearable for the reptilian brain to leave the security of not being recognize anymore, the other being not happy with it... it is also to say « no » to our old reflexes and not to recognize ourselves anymore, the image of ourselves is diluted....uncertainty and insecurity which are with, appear...
...OH... OH... OH... OH... OH !!!!!!!!
That cannot be done without the Presence in ourselves and the breathing with this Presence...
Sincerity to say a true « no », a frank, determined «no», without aggressiveness without violence... frees the espace, removes a weight that encumbered even though we did not suspect his presence...
To say « NO » to what is wrong,
To say « NO » in reflex with the body...
It is to say « YES » to Freedom, to Truth...
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« Then slowly, he turned and went to take the news to the Roshi.
He had no fear of the blames for not having delivered the message.
A Force greater than the fear was in him and gave him the power to say « no ». »
Tiger Man 75